Help! I have nothing to wear! - women 50 plus
The change of seasons is a fantastic time to re-look at your closet and decide what you wear, what you don’t wear and what you need to update your look and fill those gaps.
I am sure you have heard this time and time again, but do you look in your closet and it is crammed full of clothes, but you still feel you have nothing to wear?
Or is your closet full of clothes that went with another lifestyle? Maybe you have just retired, and you have lots of clothes, but they suit a corporate lifestyle and not your new adventures.
What we usually mean when we say we have nothing to wear, is that we have nothing to wear for the person we are today.
Doing a closet edit is therapeutic, cathartic and can completely change your day-to-day life and the way you view clothes and makes getting dressed in the morning something enjoyable, instead of being stressful and time-consuming. Because, getting dressed in the morning is something that we all must do, each day, every day (mostly!), so why does it become such an issue with us all?
Well, this is partly to do with our own body image and how we view ourselves. If we hate our bodies and the way we look, then whatever we take out of our closet is going to be viewed as an enemy – it is just going to compound our own views on our bodies. We will try and dress to cover up, trying to make ourselves invisible, but all the time just making ourselves look bigger and more frumpy and keeping the cycle of self-loathing alive and kicking
If we have a closet full of clothes that don’t fit, either too big or too small, then every time we look at them, they are going to be constant triggers that we think our bodies are not good enough and our self-worth will plummet. We then pull out the one outfit that we feel “ok” in, but constant use renders this boring and the cycle of “I have nothing to wear” starts. This is then fuelled when we go shopping for new clothes, as we will then tend to buy exactly the same thing again, because we know we feel “ok” in it, so it makes sense – again adding to the cycle!
By first addressing the body image issues we have, which is a huge part of Style Coaching, we can then start to look at the clothes in the closet and weed them out. Being honest with how they make us feel and acknowledging that we need to let go of them and dress for our bodies now, not in some mythical future when we feel better about ourselves or have lost that weight, and this will be so incredibly liberating!
Another reason why we might have a closet full of clothes we can’t wear is because we have spent a lot of money on something, but when we got it home it didn’t really fit our body shape, or maybe our lifestyle. Guilt then comes crashing in, having wasted money on it – or maybe it was a gift and you feel you can’t get rid of it – and every time you see it in your closet, that guilt is triggered, again adding to self-loathing.
So, you can see why a wardrobe edit is so important! It can be emotional. It can be hard work. But it is worth it.
You might end up with only a handful of things left to wear, but they will be things that make you feel good, happy and your best self. They will also be items that fit your lifestyle and your style personality, so you are actually dressing for yourself and the life you want, rather than being an imposter in your own clothes.
And then you can start to build on what you have. You will begin to know what suits you, what you need to buy to fill in the gaps in your wardrobe and will have a specific plan for whenever go shopping. This makes the whole experience far more enjoyable and less stressful as you have specifics to go for.
Isn’t it worth the pain of a few hours to create an easier morning routine for yourself and start to build up your confidence and dress for your best life?
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